What’s Your Escape Plan? 11 lessons from my solo ADHD mom self care vacation #137

 
 


Mama–when was the last time you spent time alone?

And no–I don’t mean the 2 minutes you spend in the bathroom while the dog scratches at the door and you can hear someone yelling “moooom??” from some distant corner of the house. 

I mean real alone time–as in, away from your family, inaccessible, OFF THE CLOCK. 

Has it been a while? 

Have you…ever had any real alone time?

If you haven’t, it’s understandable. Maybe you just can’t find the time. Or the childcare help. 

Maybe you feel selfish or wrong for taking time to yourself. 

We feel like we have to be the glue that holds families together, right? Without you, wouldn’t your family just…fall apart?

Maybe. But maybe that’s okay

In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I’ll share 11 lessons I learned from my first solo vacation as an ADHD mom, and more. We’ll talk about:

-Overwhelmed moms who formed “escape plans”--from becoming a nun to checking into rehab (Yeah, motherhood is hard.)

-How my vacation almost didn’t happen because my ADHD brain mixed up the dates and miscommunicated them to my spouse. 

-How I felt after getting 10 hours of uninterrupted sleep (YES, this really happened)

-How stepping back can increase our kids’ resilience

-Relationships and ADHD–why it’s so important for us to voice what’s in our head so our partners can understand how our extraordinary brains work

-The time-driven nature of motherhood, and how getting “off the clock” can relieve anxiety for moms with ADHD

-The difference between self-care and after-care, and why it matters

-Chronic illness and motherhood–how you’re more capable than you think when you’ve slid into a dark spot

As an ADHD mama, you’re already a superstar. Listen to this episode to find out how self-care can help you shine even brighter. 


Time Management Mastery for ADHD Moms is starting NOW! In 11 weeks, you’ll design your daily rhythms and routines for a smooth and successful day. Join us here: bit.ly/adhdframework 


Patricia Sung 0:00

What's your escape plan? When motherhood gets too hard, too much to everything? And you're ready to pull the ripcord? How are you going to do it? Are you overwhelmed by motherhood and barely keeping your head above water? Are you confused and frustrated by how all the other moms make it look so easy. You can't figure out how to manage the chaos in your mind, your home, or your family. I get your mama, parenting with ADHD is hard. Here is your permission slip to let go of the Pinterest or the visions of organization and structure fit for everyone else. Let's do life like our brains do life creatively, lovingly, and with all our might. When we embrace who we are and how our brains work, we can figure out how to live our lives successfully, and in turn, lead our families. Well, at the end of the day, we just want to be good moms. but spoiler alert, you are already a great mom. ADHD does not mean you're doomed to be a hot mess mama, you can rewrite your story from shame spiral to success story. And I'll be right here beside you to cheer you on. Welcome to motherhood in ADHD.

Patricia Sung 1:12

Hey, they're successful mama, it's your friend Patricia Sung. Well, recently, a friend asked me this question. And I was like, What? What do you mean? She said, Well, background story for you. My friend Veronica is a massage therapist. And so she takes care of a lot of folks, many of them moms. And she asked 15 Moms what their escape plan was.

Patricia Sung 1:48

For one motherhood got too hard based on a conversation she had started with one of her clients. Well, when mom was contemplating becoming an N one vide about just you know, heading on her way home down I-10. And just keep going don't stop, never exit just head off into West Texas somewhere and start a new life. Another mom was trying to check herself into rehab so that she could have some peace and quiet and I was like, Have you ever been to rehab because...

Patricia Sung 2:15

But anyway, another mom had a very elaborate plan that involved getting her husband super drunk, somehow tricking him into cheating on her so that she could file for divorce and have plenty of alimony and be okay to live on her own. Now bear in mind, my friend Veronica is happily childless in midlife and has no desire to have kids at all. So I feel like it gives moms a little bit of wiggle room. I'm being honest, because there's not another mom judging her.

Patricia Sung 2:41

You know, I mean, and I was honest, I'm like, I don't have escape plan. Like, is my life perfect? No, but I built it in the way that makes me happy. And she told me that out of the 15 Moms she's asked only myself and one other mom didn't have an escape plan that made me be like, Wow, moms are really struggling right now, which we all knew. But it broke my heart. But at the same time, I totally get it. And I asked her, What is the commonality that me and this other mom that didn't have an escape plan? Like what would you say is the common denominator?

Patricia Sung 3:13

You started telling me about this woman who has four kids and absolutely loves being a mom. And I was like, Uh, that's not me. I love my kids. But I don't love being a mom, being a mom is really hard. It's a lot of work. So what a mundane, repetitive zero glory, lots of complaints job. So I was like, I definitely wouldn't put my self in the category of this woman who loves being a mom.

Patricia Sung 3:34

And she said, Well, I think the difference is that both of you have clear plans set out on how to take care of yourselves. You make time to still be you in the midst of being a mom, which really made me think because, wow, I didn't realize what a novelty that would be. But moms as a whole are really struggling right now. This pandemic has been waiting on Mothers, which I won't get on my soapbox, because I know you already know this. I wonder what are you doing to take care of yourself? What are you doing that puts yourself on the priority list?

Patricia Sung 4:12

All of these thoughts are coming together as I took my first solo vacation ever last month, I booked myself a getaway tiny cabin, about an hour outside of Houston. And I have never traveled on my own before. I've taken trips with friends and trips, family and work trips. But I've never gone by myself just to be by myself. And when I told my husband that I wanted to do this, he basically told me I was crazy. Why would anybody want to do that? But also my husband is like extroverted max and doesn't understand my introverted tendencies of needing time and space to myself more than the average person.

Patricia Sung 4:52

And don't you know, that as we're approaching the dates, it was a big conundrum because in my ADHD haste. I told him the wrong dates, he agreed to those dates. And then I booked the dates that I had planned in my head, which were not the dates that I said and ended up being a big fight, which was on me. But I'll be honest, I was totally defensive about it. Because I said at the beginning, I'm not 100% sure about these dates, but it's the Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, but the numbers I said, we're Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and it turns out Wednesday, Thursday, Friday was not a good choice for him. But I already booked it. So he said, Fine, just do it.

Patricia Sung 5:26

Well, then don't you know, I lined up childcare coverage and made sure that he had help lined up, and it all fell through at the last minute. So he ended up having to take off work in order to stay home with the kids. And I really just thought about canceling the whole thing. But my husband's champ, and he was like, figure it out. Just go because you think he knew that I really needed the break.

Patricia Sung 5:47

So I left on a Wednesday evening, I got to spend an entire glorious Thursday by myself. And then I checked out Friday morning and came back by lunchtime. And I wanted to share with you the 11 things I learned by spending a full 36 hours by myself. Number one, I do really well with a lot of sleep. I'll be honest, I haven't slept 10 hours since before I got pregnant with my oldest son, and he's over seven. So it's been a solid eight years of not sleeping 10 hours straight.

Patricia Sung 6:18

Normally, I have this awful slump midday, like one o'clock where I'm just toast. And granted, I'm sure a lot of it has to do with how sick I've been in the cortisol levels and all that jazz. But knowing that I got 10 hours of sleep, and I woke up the next day and felt great. And then I slept nine hours the next night and I woke up and I felt great. Like, hello, I know that sleeping is good for us. But it wasn't until I actually got to full quality nights of rest that I was like, Oh, look, it worked.

Patricia Sung 6:49

Y'all, with this ADHD, sometimes we just got to experience the lesson for ourselves. We just don't learn when people tell us that or reading a book or whatever. So lesson learned, have I implemented this? Well, since I returned, not as much as I would have liked. But I do recognize how much value I got out of that. And I'm working on plan.

Patricia Sung 7:09

Number two, I was reminded that all good things come with little doodoo. Life's good and bad parts, they're intertwined. And we don't get to pick one or the other. I was laughing really hard because this kilo Cardinal was sitting on my sideview mirror. And it made me really happy because Cardinals remind me of my childhood. I'm from Ohio, and it's the state bird of Ohio. And it makes me think of my mom. And he was tweeting and I was tweeting back to him and I felt like Cinderella, you know, the bird swung around. Swen in a dress, they're sewn on all the ribbons, and it was a really happy moment for me.

Patricia Sung 7:43

And then don't you know, get in the car and see that bird got poop everywhere, all over the side of my car, so had to get a car wash. So I wouldn't trade that wildly memory, the car wash was worth it. But sure reminder that good things always come with some bad life is intertwined. You can't separate the two. So I'll take the cardinal and it's tip number three, it was really good for my kids to be away from me.

Patricia Sung 8:06

Because through all this pandemic stuff, they don't remember a time that I wasn't there that I was gone for bedtime. And the whole day, it was really hard for them, but they were fine, they were totally fine. And that's a beautiful point of resilience that our kids need to learn that they will be okay without us. We are not the only thing that holds them together, we are not their glue. And they'll be okay without us, which relates to number four.

Patricia Sung 8:33

If you take some time away from your family, you don't have to ignore them completely. Find the balance that fits you, you shouldn't be on call solving all the problems. But you also don't have to go like completely dark and not talk to anybody. either. It's fine to call them before bed and say goodnight. Or say hi in the middle of the day, or send a cute picture back and forth. You don't have to ignore them. But whichever way you go, it'll be totally fine.

Patricia Sung 8:54

Number five, I've thought a lot about how can I be a better mom and a better partner. It's been a pretty stressful two years for the whole earth. And in our family to pre pandemic, our lives looked very different. My husband traveled a lot for work, he was gone three days a week, usually two or three times a week. So there were some months where he wasn't gone as much. But then there'd be some months where he was gone a lot.

Patricia Sung 9:17

And I figured out how to make our lives work on my own. I figured out my rhythms and routines and how to function with putting two kids to bed by myself and do all the things and keep up with all the stuff. But it would create a different problem when he comes back and I'd be like You're messing up my system and now things are all going wrong and then made him feel unwelcome in our house.

Patricia Sung 9:36

There were a lot of growing pains in there. And now the tables have turned with the pandemic. My husband stopped traveling, I got really sick, he had to pick up a lot of the slack around the house of things that I just couldn't do anymore. And now that this podcast that was a hobby has become a business I'm busier than I used to be far busier.

Patricia Sung 9:58

And while I know that this is the message that God has sent me on to be a light to other moms with ADHD. That doesn't mean that my family doesn't come out unscathed. They are affected, my presence is missed when I'm not there, we've had to figure out what does it look like when Mom is working and can't be at this thing or can't do pick up. And as much as I arrange my work to be during school hours, sometimes things pop up, or there's emergencies? And how do I make sure that I'm still honoring my family, while I'm also honoring the work that God has set before me, it's a boundary that I have not sorted out, I'm not sorted out and working on it. I'm trying to find a plan. I'm seeking guidance, I'm seeking wisdom.

Patricia Sung 10:40

And I know that I will eventually find a good balance. But my ADHD tendencies can really drag me into a hyper focus when I need to be doing something else. And that's a hard thing to overcome. How do I figure out workarounds for that? How do I make this work, because I have to, or ADHD is always an explanation. But it's not an excuse. And I still want to do a really great job being a mom, in addition to being a really great business owner, and a really great mentor. And a really great friend.

Patricia Sung 11:14

In conjunction with that as number six is that I was reminded that I have a lot of conversations inside my head that I don't let my husband in on. I think about things so many times and turn it over and flip it around and analyze it and re analyze it and overthink it that a lot of times I've done that all in my head. And I've never voiced them out loud.

Patricia Sung 11:32

And for my husband to be my partner, I have to voice things out loud, I have to explain to him how my brains working and what I'm thinking and how I'm dreaming. And what are all the amazing things that I see for the vision of this podcast and courses and connections and mentoring and all of that have to let him in on that for him to be there with me. So reminding myself that all those conversations in my head are only in my head and I have to speak them out loud, and let him in so that he can be a part to it scary to open the door and like let someone see inside the dusty closet of things on everywhere.

Patricia Sung 12:09

I can feel shame and embarrassment about all the things that are floating around in my head and navigating when it's safe to let someone in even though we've been together for like, almost 20 years, like I still forget sometimes that he's a safe place. And then I can be open and let men. Number seven slowing down really matters. As moms are always moving and going.

Patricia Sung 12:36

There's always another thing to do another person to take care of another person needing a snack, we need the time and space to slow down and look around. Because our ADHD minds are always propelling us forward, we have to slow down to be able to assess the situation when we're in the weeds or we're in the jungle and the foliage is all in your face. And you can't even see a few feet ahead of you. We can't make a bigger plan, we have to stop and assess and like pick our heads up and get a bird's eye view at the big picture and see what's what was really matters.

Patricia Sung 13:10

It's not an intuitive place for us to pick our heads up and look around and survey the land and make a plan. But that's the space where we can be proactive when we're looking at that big picture. And it's silly because I teach this in my courses. And then I don't take my own advice. Anyone else? I know that when I slow down that I can make a plan. That's that's what we talk about. When we look at our planners for the week. We slow down for a minute and look at the whole week the big picture to figure out what is it that needs to happen to set myself up for success. But it's the same way for our whole lives is that we have to slow down to be proactive and look at the big picture and choose what's the best thing for my whole life. I have to give myself the space to think about what I want to do better.

Patricia Sung 14:04

Do you wish there was a way to feel like you're not failing at life and motherhood every day. And what it's like to run around all day like a headless chicken stressed because you're late to everything. And when you finally sit down after the kids are in bed, you think about how you didn't get anything done. And somehow your to do list is longer than when you started out this morning. You're tired drowning and feel like you'll never catch up. But imagine this. When you sit down at the end of the night. There's no MT laundry. You know, it's for dinner. You spend some quality time with your kids and Medusa mom didn't even rear her ugly head at bedtime. And he did something kind of just for yourself today. If you did even one of those things today, you'd be thrilled right? It's not a fairy tale, Mama. There are other moms with ADHD getting their days together.

Patricia Sung 14:54

And you can do that's why I created Time Management Mastery for ADHD moms where I teach How to Create a rhythm for your day in ADHD friendly way. That puts the lengthy To Do List of motherhood on automate. So you don't have to think about when you're sleeping next or how you'll find time to pay that bill you've been putting off, you'll be able to make a plan for your day that is fluid enough for your ADHD brain to stick with been structured enough to feel like you're in control. Remember our rhythms and routines service, not the other way around. Over the next 11 weeks you will create a flexible framework for your day and walk away with a community of moms who understand you enter cheering you on and say I'm right there with you. Because being a mom is hard, we will get off track. That's just part of ADHD.

Patricia Sung 15:39

But now you will have the support to get back on track. When you are struggling. We meet weekly to help us remember, oh yeah, we're working on a goal. Most importantly, you'll learn about how your ADHD brain works so that you make decisions from a place of confidence because a healthy mama leads a healthy family. Being proactive comes from a place of strength, which takes a ton of strain off your relationships because you are in a better place. When you're ready to lighten your load. By making a daily plan and figuring out what makes sense for your ADHD brain and enjoying more of your motherhood, it's time to sign up for the time management mastery for ADHD moms program. The program starting right now, hello, immediate gratification. So sign up right now at https://bit.ly/adhdframework that is https://bit.ly/adhdframework. And it's all lowercase letters Bitly forward slash ADHD framework. So sign up now before you forget, okay, I can't wait to help you feel good about your day. But more importantly, I want you to feel good about yourself. So sign up at https://bit.ly/adhdframework.

Patricia Sung 16:58

Number eight, I was reminded that motherhood is extremely time driven. And this is a huge point of contention for us, because we know we're not good with time. And that creates a much higher level of stress and anxiety for us. Because motherhood is time driven, having an entire 24 hours and driven by only my own personal whims. Well, in my blood pressure medicine that has to be taken every four hours. But I digress. I didn't have to be up by a certain time, I didn't have to feed anyone a certain time, I didn't have to make sure someone took a nap, or had to be at school, or did homework, or ate another snack or anything. When potty, like I wasn't keeping the clock for all the other humans. It was amazing.

Patricia Sung 17:41

That level of freedom and stress that was taken off me in that 24 hours, I didn't have to keep up with the time all day all the time, I knew that that was what was so stressful for me. But to actually experience that where I could just eat what I wanted. When I wanted, I was able to turn my brain off and relax. And when I explained ahead of time I was telling my husband, this is why I want to go I want to turn my brain off. I don't ever get to turn my brain off.

Patricia Sung 18:07

Even when you're sleeping, your mom ear is on to see if somebody is vomiting or crying or whatever. And it wasn't able to completely put it into words before it's like I knew that this is what I needed. And I kind of knew why. But now it's like, oh, this is it. The responsibility of keeping other humans alive. Always having to think about what food has to come next with sleep has to come next. How am I going to keep this person alive, it's a lot of pressure, you're not imagining it is stressful. This is also why these breaks, creating space for your brain to be able to turn off is so valuable. We don't have to white knuckle it through life, that time and space away allows you to lower your stress, lower your anxiety because there's not another looming deadline that always comes with motherhood.

Patricia Sung 18:53

Number nine, this trip also allowed me the time and space to realize how incredibly thankful I am for you, the community that we created to know that I'm not the only one who feels like this. And I have people who understand me and get me and encouraged me and love me just as I am. Wow. Like that's the best word I've got. I am so appreciative of you of my village my support.

Patricia Sung 19:19

If you are not a part of our free Facebook community, please go and join. If you're like I'm not a social media person, Patricia, that's fine. That's why I put our student community on a not social media website, because I know what times like those can be. Both of these communities of women are so encouraging. We can be ourselves and ask questions. There are no dumb questions. A lot of times we feel like there's not enough places here that we can be on the earth and just be ourselves. And while that makes me sad, it also makes me really happy that we do have that in our community. So if you need that to come join us.

Patricia Sung 19:55

Okay, number 10. Our second to last tidbit here is that it Do of self care versus after care. Now I'm going to link, one of my favorite Instagram accounts, which is Dr. nhadra. The other day she posted a video about the difference between self care and aftercare that we keep touting all this self care. But yet, what we're doing is actually after care, we're waiting until we have a big problem, and then we try to fix it. Instead of doing self care, which is taking care of ourselves. Before we have the problem.

Patricia Sung 20:24

Let's be honest, this pandemic has made a problem for like every month, okay, we all got problems. So this way, like we're not doing any self care, we're just doing aftercare. We're just repairing, we're being reactive, we're the whole point of self care, is to work on it ahead of time and be proactive so that we don't get to the place of burnout and stress. I didn't realize how much I was doing after care, and not self care. And while that's still valuable, I want to get to the point where it's more self care and more proactive than it is after Karen burnout.

Patricia Sung 20:56

So what does this look like for you? It doesn't have to be this sweeping 24 hour away from your family thing, if that's not feasible for you at this point. So what are the little things you can do? What are the little ways that you can recharge your battery? We were just talking last week in our Wednesday support group for students about one of the moms asked like, how do I deal when my kid is pushing all my buttons, and I am just done. And I can no longer help them self regulate, because I am no longer regulated.

Patricia Sung 21:27

And we talked about how we feel awful because we feel like well, I went from zero to 100 in like two seconds, and there was nothing to be done about it. And then I snapped at my kids. And you know, Medusa mom came out and it was awful. And then we're beating ourselves up in the shame and the Ba ba ba ba ba. But that's because we're incorrectly thinking that we went from zero to 100. In that moment, we didn't all day long, that meter was rising, we were fine at zero.

Patricia Sung 21:53

When we first woke up, then we open our eyes and there's Tattler standing there looking at you scaring the ever loving bejesus out of you. Your bed has ever happened to you. And your 10 or 20. Maybe you jumped to 40 because of this irritation, or that irritation, and this thing didn't go your way. And it's slowly creeping up all day and you're fine at 60 and 70. And 80 starts to get ugly. And when you hear that 80 to 100. So quickly, you're beating yourself up. But that's because you didn't start at zero, you were at 80 when that awful thing happened, or that irritating thing happened. And that's how you ended up 100. And Medusa mom shows up.

Patricia Sung 22:34

So what are we doing during the day for ourselves to pull the meter back down before we get to 100? Or before we hit 80? So we feel ourselves getting to 50? What can we do to pull it back a notch and drop down to 40 or 30? Because we know there's going to be more things in the day that irritate us or frustrate us. What are we doing throughout the day to lower the emotional regulation meet her so that we're not yelling at everybody by bedtime? So that's my question for you is what can you do today? something little, that's going to bump that meter down one or two points so that you can make it through these crazy times that we're in as moms.

Patricia Sung 23:13

And number 11, I was reminded that I am far more capable than I think I am. I was listening to a podcast with Holly McHugh,

Patricia Sung 23:21

then I'll tag it in the show notes. She was speaking about how we have to do the thing. We have to take the action before we're going to feel confident and competent in what you're doing. There's so many times that we hold ourselves back thinking like, Oh, I'll do that when I'm ready. Or let me just prep one more thing, or this isn't the right time. And there's never a right time. Just like there was never the perfect time or like I'm ready to be a mom, I know all the things I'm totally prepared.

Patricia Sung 23:47

No, you just jump in with two feet and hope for the best. It's a metaphor for your whole life. We are constantly evolving. We're constantly changing. And we don't have clarity on what the next step is until we're actually moving. When I think about this podcast, where I came from three years ago, which by the way, totally for accelerate my three year anniversary here with you all totally forgot, I look back at where we've come these last three years.

Patricia Sung 24:13

And I never could have told you at the beginning that this is where I would be. I never could have predicted the topics that we're talking about, or that I would be teaching classes. I don't know where we're going until I put something out there and see like, did you like it? What was your feedback? Did this resonate with you? Did that resonate with you? And that's when I can see this is what you want more of when you send me emails about like that episode. That was it.

Patricia Sung 24:39

Or when I write you an email and you're like that email. That's it. This is what I needed to hear. That's how I know where to go with my next steps by taking in all that feedback from what I put out into the world, gathering the data and then making a decision for what's next. And even though I've got that figured out in my business in my personal life, so hump day don't, when I think back two years ago is when I got really sick. That was the beginning of the avalanche. Granted had been building up for years.

Patricia Sung 25:11

But March of 2020 was the avalanche of when I got so sick, I was bedridden or sofa ridden. Because I was so sick, I am still sick. But I'm not that sick anymore. I'm getting better, I'm doing more. But when things move slowly, we don't see our progress. And we still think of ourselves like the old person, we were, instead, the new person we're becoming. And when I was on this getaway, I went on a walk with no pressure of how long it needed to be or how far I was going to go.

Patricia Sung 25:41

And a year ago, I couldn't have walked down my driveway and back without being out of breath. And my heart pounding six months ago, I couldn't have made it around the block. But on this trip, I was able to walk. And I just walked in, I knew about how long the loop was. And if I got to a certain point that I needed to turn back oe else, it'd be shorter to keep going. So I was careful. And I made a plan. And I knew that if I was too tired, I had to turn back. But I ended up being able to walk for an hour in credit, I was not moving fast by any means. But I did it. And I could not have done that three months ago or a year ago or two years ago.

Patricia Sung 26:18

But I can't keep thinking of myself as a sick person. Because then I stay in the place where sick people can't do things. I'm leaning into the neuroplasticity of my brain and telling myself a different narrative that I can do so much more than I used to. And I'm rewiring how my brain functions, and yet still floating around in my brain with some old knowledge. Because I figured out how to start a fire all by myself. It's been a really long time since I was in Girl Scouts. But I figured it out.

Patricia Sung 26:46

Now it takes some talent and persistence tending it. But then the leaves in the fire going to the middle of sticks catch fire than the bigger six and the big ones and the big logs. But I did it in having the opportunity to step back and say, I can pull this knowledge from long ago of old Patricia and still use it. But I also don't have to be cemented in the places that I don't want to be I don't want to be sick Patricia anymore. And I'm not. And to believe that in my heart is a really, really big triumph, to be able to accept reality, but also look forward to what's beautiful. And what's ahead. Are you doing that? Mama? Have you stopped recently to look at what you can do? Instead of what you think you can't do? Have you tried something? Knowing that it might be a total failure, a complete bust.

Patricia Sung 27:48

But you had done it anyway. We can start those little things in little ways. Like if I didn't figure out the firewall, I'd be alright. If I didn't make it on the long walk? Well, I'd be all right. When we feel like we can't do stuff, we put all this pressure on ourselves. And we until we know it's gonna be perfect before we try. We don't get anywhere. So what can you try? That's new today that has low pressure and knowing that it might be terrible, but it's okay. Because we have to start we have to move. We have to take a step forward in order to know what the next step is after that.

Patricia Sung 28:24

Action begets clarity. Action begets confidence. Even if you've been told over and over again, that you can't do it. You can, you can do so much more, so much more than you think you can. And you know, deep down in your gut, that things are possible that dreams are possible that you've shoved aside and you can if a sick Patricia, who was on a couch dying, couldn't even walk to the kitchen two years ago, can get up and walk for an hour now.

Patricia Sung 28:56

What ever you think you can't do? You can because I can tell you that two years ago sick Patricia was pretty sure that this was her fate forever. But it wasn't. Even when we're sick. Even when we're down. We can still dream big and do things that we don't think we can do. You know, I'm not dismissing the realistic truth. I'm speaking into your heart that you can do more than you ever imagined possible.

Patricia Sung 29:30

So Dream Big Mama, take one step forward. Do one thing for yourself. Pick one of the things and do it today. One step at a time little by little we can make the life that we want to live even when life is hard. I'll talk to you soon successful mama.

Patricia Sung 29:50

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